Yesterday, I posted about the WIC and its focus on beautiful details over the couple's love and commitment. Today, I pulled up my favorite wedding blog to find that this topic has been quite the source of discussion in the wedding blogosphere recently.
A major wedding photographer published his "Mason Jar Manifesto," a reference to the current trend of rustic, vintage-inspired weddings. In it, he complains about the focus on details and advises people to "Strip it back. Peel the layers off. And start again. At the center of every wedding we have a girl. Who fell in love with a
boy. Or a girl who fell in love with a girl. Or a boy who fell in l…
you get my point. The rest is fluff. If you read magazines and wedding blogs today, you’d think it’s all
about the dress, the decorations, invitations or a million other things. THINGS. It’s not. It’s about celebrating love, a manifestation of commitment, a gathering of friends and family."
A few weeks earlier, another wedding photographer posted an open letter to wedding blogs. "Not all of our weddings include brides sporting bird nests in their
hair, or pretty, young Anthropologie-swathed bridesmaids, or
meticulously stenciled miniature burlap dinosaurs holding up place cards
made from the recycled issues of Rolling Stone, or weddings
held in obscure meadows that can only be reached via bush pilot or a
team of sled dogs. Sound over the top? It is, but you publish this stuff
daily!" She says that brides have apologized to her about the lack of details in their weddings and urges bloggers to focus more on average weddings with simple details.
Abby Larson, creator of Style Me Pretty, one of the biggest wedding blogs (and host of many a mason jar wedding), responded to both of these posts by saying blogs like hers "can do better at showing the pure love that should always be the focus of a wedding."
I'm glad more and more people are talking about this, especially within the Wedding Industry. Details are great and most engaged couples want their weddings to look nice, but the details are all a bonus. You and your partner are enough. Your love is enough. Pretty flowers, place settings, and yes, even mason jars, are all just fun extra things. The details are not the most important part of your wedding; your marriage is. That's what blogs should tell their readers.