Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Guilty Verdict

We're not exactly having a low-budget wedding. Most weddings are expensive, and things cost even more in the city. I haven't felt much guilt about the amount of money we're spending on our wedding until very recently. I think it's because we've booked all the things that are the most important to us, like the venues, photography, catering, and music. Now, we're moving onto things that are less important, like flowers and transportation to shuttle us to different picture-taking locations, which makes writing those checks more painful. It's not like we're even going over-budget on these items; I just don't care enough about them to even pay for them at all! Why do we need a trolley when we can hail cabs or take the el? Pictures on the el would be awesome! Why do we need a florist when Whole Foods flowers look just as pretty? Every dollar we spend on fancy flowers could've been spent on another hour of photography or not spent at all. And don't even get me started on the guilt I feel for making other people spend money to attend and/or be in our wedding.

Did anybody else feel any wedding-related guilt? Any tips on how to get over it (other than just scratching everything and eloping)?


  1. Thanks for the follow, and I'm following you back! It's great to see a fellow september 2012 & chicago bride! (Suburbs in my case but still)

  2. Hi Molly, I clicked over from APW and I'm happy to find your blog!

    Wedding guilt. I can't imagine a single bride-to-be not having it. But to be honest, it seems like you've done the right thing with prioritizing. Truly, that's the only advice I can give: Decide what's most important to you and spend your money on those items. If possible, do the rest of it on the cheap.

    At the end of the day, no matter how much money you're shelling out, you just have to remember that this is your wedding day--and it's only going to happen once. So do what makes you and your partner happy and comfortable and of course, take comfort in the fact that after it's all over? You'll be married to the person of your dreams. Good luck!

  3. Elizabeth,
    Thanks for clicking over! APW people make the best readers. :-)

    And thanks for the thoughtful comment. I really do try to focus on the end game (the marriage), but it's hard in the Age of the WIC. Thanks for the encouragement and advice.